The girls got their first professional braids put in 4 days before the wedding. What an experience! I found this lady through a friend who adopted her daughter from Ethiopia. She has a cute little shop over by the DM fairgrounds – it’s only been open a year. We were there for 7 hours as the girls got their hair washed, detangled, blown out, and braided. It cost me $200, which is an awful lot of money (and the reason we will only be doing this for special occasions) but for that much work, $200 seems really fair. I thought it was good for the girls, culturally, too. They do not spend time with other black people, other than their one bio brother. To a certain extent, they need these kind of experiences. I thought it was interesting though, when the stylist told me that her “bread and butter” is adoptive families. She said it is very hard to convince black families of the necessity of paying for hair care and thus, in her opinion, a lot of little black girls are running around with their hair very unkempt. That surprised me. I just assumed knowing how to braid was part of the black DNA! But if a family has a houseful of girls, plus a mom, they would spend several thousand a year on hair, which could be prohibitive for a lot of a families, too.
Surviving early and unexpected widowhood, single parenting, adoption, special needs parenthood...I cover it all as I muse on the unexpected twists and daily minutia of my life. It's also a place where I can publicly echo the words of the psalmist in Psalm 40:2, "He brought me up out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock and established my goings."